Picking your first fantasy dildo can feel intimidating, but the right choice comes down to size, material, and firmness. Here’s a simple guide to choosing safely and confidently.
- Start with a manageable size - comfort first, fantasy later.
- Platinum silicone is safest and most durable.
- Firmness changes how texture feels: soft = forgiving, firm = intense.
- Textures and shapes affect stimulation and cleaning.
- Lube is essential - always choose water-based for silicone toys.
What size dildo should beginners choose?
Size is the first factor most people think about, but it’s relative to your body. The vagina’s G-spot sits about 2-3 inches inside, so a dildo around 5-6 inches insertable length with moderate girth is often ideal for a first toy.
Too much size too soon can cause discomfort. Many Dragon Dildo® buyers start with a beginner-friendly model before moving up to larger, textured fantasy toys.
Which materials are safest?
Not all toy materials are equal. Porous materials can harbour bacteria and break down over time. Here’s a comparison:
| Material | Pros | Cons |
|---|---|---|
| Platinum Silicone | Body-safe, non-porous, sterilizable, durable | Premium price |
| Glass | Firm, smooth, easy to clean | No flex, intense for beginners |
| Metal | Heavy, strong pressure | Not forgiving, niche use |
| Jelly / TPE | Cheap, soft | Porous, unsafe, degrades quickly |
Avoid jelly or “gel” toys. They often contain phthalates and can’t be fully cleaned. Dragon Dildo® uses only platinum medical-grade silicone - the gold standard for hygiene and safety.
How does firmness affect experience?
- Soft: More bend and give, gentle for beginners.
- Medium: Balanced definition + flex. Our most popular firmness.
- Firm: Maximum texture and stimulation, best for experienced users.
Large toys in soft silicone may feel “floppy,” while firm silicone keeps its shape but feels more intense. Choosing firmness to match both size and confidence is key.
What about texture and shape?
Texture creates unique sensations, but it also affects ease of use and cleaning:
- Smooth shafts: Best for first-timers, less drag, easier insertion.
- Ridges, scales, or knots: Add stimulation but can feel overwhelming at larger sizes.
- Curved tips: Designed for G-spot or prostate pressure.
- Flares or suction bases: Add stability for riding or hands-free play.
Do dildos guarantee orgasm?
No toy guarantees orgasm. Studies show 65%+ of women require clitoral stimulation to climax, not penetration alone. A dildo enhances fullness and G-spot pressure, while pairing with a vibrator increases overall satisfaction. For anal or prostate play, firmness and curve matter most.
Should I use condoms or lube with my dildo?
Lube: Always use water-based with silicone toys, safe, easy to reapply, and avoids damaging your toy. Silicone lubes can break down silicone toys over time.
Condoms: Not needed for solo play but recommended if toys are shared. They make cleanup easier and reduce risk of bacteria transfer.
Firsthand proof: Buyer survey 2025
In our 2025 buyer survey (182 respondents), 61% of beginners preferred medium firmness for comfort, while advanced users leaned toward firm textures. This mirrors Trustpilot reviews praising Dragon Dildo®’s balance of stretch and stimulation.
Why trust us
This guide is written by Emily Conway, creative director of Dragon Dildo® (UK-registered trademark, 2021). Emily validates product specs against our 2025 catalogue export, oversees fulfilment, and monitors GA4 & Trustpilot feedback.
